Egh.
That was how I felt when I heard the story.
Thought I would share...
A new acquittance of mine had her 4th child a few months ago. Her oldest is 8, her youngest now 8 months old. Over a family holiday down island she was speaking to a parent (yeah, a parent no less) of a girl her sons age...the conversation naturally lead to "do you have any other children?"
To which she replied "yes, I have four of them", and then pointed to husband and youngest daughter and said that her youngest daughter is almost 8 months old.
"She's yours?" the mother replied.
I can almost see now, the proud grin stretch across her face.
"Was that on purpose?"
Pause for effect.
"Was THAT on purpose?"
Was that on PURPOSE?"
That's right, she asked if her beautiful daughter was "on purpose".
Now I don't care who you are, but asking that is just plain wrong.
In some cases, it can be pretty clear that perhaps getting pregnant was not what they were expecting, or perhaps wasn't the first choice timing wise, it might even be apparent that they are struggling with it in a big way. In some cases even knowing that it was their choice, and perhaps shouldn't have been, gets that kind of internal thought process going...
However-since when did taking a look at others actions, deciding that we would never do it, therefore it must be a mistake become appropriate to voice?
Think it, fine. I too have thought those things here an there on various subjects. Speak it aloud though?
Unless a parent offers up that kind of information-WHY WOULD YOU ASK?
What kind of answer did she expect?
"Yeah, the condom broke and I was too busy to realize I was pregnant to get an abortion in time, so now I am just hoping that some sort of car accident will relieve me of the mistake of having a fourth child to clothe and feed-hey, you aren't looking to adopt are you??"
That was how I felt when I heard the story.
Thought I would share...
A new acquittance of mine had her 4th child a few months ago. Her oldest is 8, her youngest now 8 months old. Over a family holiday down island she was speaking to a parent (yeah, a parent no less) of a girl her sons age...the conversation naturally lead to "do you have any other children?"
To which she replied "yes, I have four of them", and then pointed to husband and youngest daughter and said that her youngest daughter is almost 8 months old.
"She's yours?" the mother replied.
I can almost see now, the proud grin stretch across her face.
"Was that on purpose?"
Pause for effect.
"Was THAT on purpose?"
Was that on PURPOSE?"
That's right, she asked if her beautiful daughter was "on purpose".
Now I don't care who you are, but asking that is just plain wrong.
In some cases, it can be pretty clear that perhaps getting pregnant was not what they were expecting, or perhaps wasn't the first choice timing wise, it might even be apparent that they are struggling with it in a big way. In some cases even knowing that it was their choice, and perhaps shouldn't have been, gets that kind of internal thought process going...
However-since when did taking a look at others actions, deciding that we would never do it, therefore it must be a mistake become appropriate to voice?
Think it, fine. I too have thought those things here an there on various subjects. Speak it aloud though?
Unless a parent offers up that kind of information-WHY WOULD YOU ASK?
What kind of answer did she expect?
"Yeah, the condom broke and I was too busy to realize I was pregnant to get an abortion in time, so now I am just hoping that some sort of car accident will relieve me of the mistake of having a fourth child to clothe and feed-hey, you aren't looking to adopt are you??"
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